Sunday, February 4, 2018

widow remarriage is not prohibited by Smritis at all..

widow remarriage is not prohibited by Smritis at all..

Ananthanarayanan Vaidyanathan

A woman who is married and has become bereft of marriage status throught desertion, widowhood etc.. can be taken back to the parental gothram or any other gothram.. and the lady can be termed as punarbhoo .. and can once again be gifted back.. the procedure is the same a the marriage originally.
Of course, using the word gift in Kanyadharam might seem as if the lady is a stuff for trade.. but the way the rituals are structured would prove that the woman was given all the honours.. And then there is a ritual before the marriage.. in the Vedic way itself, where the parents and siblings grieve the departure of their own darling sister..(See the marriage mantras in texts like Ekagni kandam.) Have you noticed this Vedic mantra..? And the mantras of Laja homam and the spirit therein also reveals that the lady who is being sent away just because of social necessities is always a very honoured person in their parental family..
The dharanam.. the word is used slightly out of place..
And the dhanam is made not to a man.. but to Vishnu the Lord .. Daashyaami Vishnave Tubhyam.. the idea has a sublime spiritual connotation.. A family just reaching out to the Supreme being..
If you just hold on to a word and criticise... there can be no end.. In fact the innocent Vedic practitioner never meant any slighting to the womanhood..
No Vedic rite can be done by a man without the permissionn of his wife.. He cannot even take sannyasam without the permission of the woman he married.
The Vedic mantras like Sumangaleeriyam vadhoo... what do they mean..
There are many more mantras in Rigvedam, Adapted in yajurvedam too which reveals that the woman who has entered the family of her husband after being given in marriage is the queen or empress of the household of the husband
If a chauvinist male or a shrew of a woman did things beyond the spirit of the Vedas or traditions which evolved with the best of intentions, the fault is not in the traditions..
You can use a knife to stab someone to death, you can use the same knife to cut an apple or cucumber.. The choice is yours..Why blame the knife..
We have often proceeded with the traditions and rituals without knowing or trying to know the spirit involved..
You need not change the mantrams.. You have to change your attitudes.. Otherwise Vedas, Shastras, Shruthis or Smritis cannot be of any help.. But it is meaningless to berate Smritis and traditions without understanding the distortions we have introduced into them by our own arrogance and ignorance..
The girl child is the most beautiful creation of God
The girl child is the most beautiful creation of God..
By being blessed with a girl, we provide a mother to the world.. a mother who is the source of love, prosperity and who symbolizes the eternal continuity of human race..
To be able to give a girls hand in marriage is the ultimate fortune..
I trust the presence of the father in marriage ceremony and giving her hands is not restricted to Hinduism..
But in Hinduism the idea is sublime..Let us see the marriage mantras of Kanyaadaanam.
कन्यां कनक-सम्पन्नां कनकाभरणैर्युताम्।
दास्यामि विष्णवे तुभ्यंब्रह्मलोकजिगीषया।।1।।
विश्वम्भरः सर्वभूताः साक्षिण्यः सर्वदेवताः।
इमां कन्यां प्रदास्यामि पितॄणांतारणाय च।।2।।
Kanyaam kanakasampannaam kanakaabharanairyutaam
daasyaami vishnave thubhyam brahmslokajigeeshayaa
vishwambharaaH, sarvabhootaaH, saakshinyaH sarvadevataaH
imaam kanyaam pradaasyaami pitruunamm taaranaaya cha.
The groom is respected and treated as Lord Vishnu Himself and the father says," I am giving this nubile child to you Lord Vishnu, She is adorned in Golden jewels, and my desire is that I may attain the realms of Brahma through this act.. The supreme lord who is manifesting himself filling the whole universe, is the witness, all the elements are the witnesses, all the gods are the witnesses, I am giving the hands of this girl unto you, so that the ancestors born in my clan may attain eternal abodes of happiness."
We believe that the parents and ten generations before them and ten generations after them would attain eternal bliss by this Kanyakaadaanam..
We can believe in it, or we can choose not to believe in it.
note 2
the unbreakable knot
पूषा त्वेतो नयतु हस्तगृह्य
अश्विना त्वा प्र् वहतां रथेन
गृहान् गच्च गृहपत्नी यथासौ
वशिनी त्वम् विदथं वदासि
ऋग् १०-७५-२६
सुमङ्गलीरियं वधू
इमां समेत पश्यत
सौभाग्यम् अस्यै दत्त्वाया
ऽथास्तं वि परेतन
ऋक् १०-८५-३३ अथ १४----२७
सम्राजी श्वशुरे भव
सम्राजी श्वश्र्वां भव
ननान्दरि सम्राजी भव
सम्राही अधि देवृषु
ऋग् १०-८५-४६ अथ १४--४४
समञ्जन्तु विश्वे देवाह्
सं आपो हृदयानि नौ
सं मातरिश्वा सम् धाता
समुद्रेष्ट्री दधातु नौ
ऋक् १०-८५-४७
दीर्घायुरस्तु मे पतिर् जीवाति शरदः शतम्।
अथ् १४--६३
इहेमाविन्द्र सं नुद चक्रवाकेव दंपती
अथ् १४--६४
इहैव स्तम् मा वि यौष्ठं
विश्वं आयुर् व्यश्नुतं
क्रीळन्तो पुत्रैर् नप्तृभिर्
मोदमानौ त्वे गृहे
ऋग् १०-८५-४२
पुत्रिणा ता कुमारिणा
विश्वं आयुर् व्यश्नुतः
उभा हिरण्यपेशसा
ऋग् -३१-
pūṣā tveto nayatu hastagṛhya
aśvinā tvā pr vahatāṁ rathena
gṛhān gacca gṛhapatnī yathāsau
vaśinī tvam vidathaṁ ā vadāsi
ṛg 10-75-26
sumaṅgalīriyaṁ vadhū
imāṁ sameta paśyata
saubhāgyam asyai dattvāyā
'thāstaṁ vi paretana
ṛk 10-85-33 atha 14--2--27
samrājī śvaśure bhava
samrājī śvaśrvāṁ bhava
nanāndari samrājī bhava
samrāhī adhi devṛṣu
ṛg 10-85-46 atha 14-2-44
samañjantu viśve devāh
saṁ āpo hṛdayāni nau
saṁ mātariśvā sam dhātā
sanudreṣṭrī dadhatu nau
ṛk 10-85-47
dīrghāyurastu me patir jīvāti śradaḥ śatam|
ath 14-2-63
ihemmamindra saṁ nuda cakravākeva daṁpatī
ath 14-2-64
ihaiva stam mā vi yauṣṭhaṁ
viśvaṁ āyur vyaśnutaṁ
krīḻanto putrair naptṛbhir
modamānau tve gihe
ṛg 10-85-42
putriṇā tā kumāriṇā
viśvaṁ āyur vyasnutaḥ
ubhā hiraṇyapeśsā
ṛg 8-31- 8
One friend had asked me to indicate some important marriage manthras and accordingly I do it.
The procedural rituals vary from place to place and I shall try to convey the basic rituals in a different individual message. The manthras quoted above are tribute to all ladies who enter the conjugal vow with men..The respect given to the woman in the house as a wife perhaps may not find any parallel in any other culture. There may be the mother icons everywhere, but the importance as a wife herself is underlined without room for equivocation in the hoary traditions recorded in the Vedas. The uniformity in thought can be gauged from the fact that the manthras get repeated in the most ancient rig veda and the comparatively modern atharva veda.
The bride is entering the ritualistic location, her hand held by the god puushan (one form of the sun god) the twin gods of medicine the Ashwins are accompanying her in the chariot.. and she is going away from her house to that of her husband and she is blessed that she may become the ruler of the household and the main spokesperson of the assembly in her husbands place.
The nubile bride who has become sumangalii is introduced to all. 'This bride has attained the status of a wife..she is bringing fortune to this house..come all of you and look at her...Please wish her full happiness before you return home'.
The bride is blessed to join the supreme place in the household " May your father in law treat you with affection as if you were a queen. May your mother in law treat treat you with love as if you were a queen. May your sisters in law love and respect you as if you were a queen. May your brothers in law repect and adore you as if you were a queen"

The husband prays for conjugal unity " May all Gods and all waters unite our hearts. Especially the gods Mathariswa, dhaata, and dheshtri, make us very close.
The bride prays to the gods and elders " May my husband live long, and we will live together for hundred years...bless us"
The elders pray for the couple " Join the couple here, Indra... they resemble the chakravaka and its mate. ( The chakravaka is a symbol for mutual devotion of the couple. if one loses its life, the mate will die in grief.)
The lifelong union of the ideal couple as expressed by elders in their blessing "May you two dwell in this house, never parted, you enjoy the full life span as prescribed by vedas, may you have the fotune to play together with your sons and grandsons,"
The prayer of the couple "With sons and daughters abounding, may we live long adorned in rich dresses an precious ornaments".

Wednesday, January 24, 2018

Tharpana during Bheeshmashtami

Tharpana   during Bheeshmashtami (Tomorrow  25/1/2018 Bheeshmashtami)

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Some   Brahmins have the the procedure    to give tharpanam   to Bheeshma who died  as a Naishtika  Brahmachari.(WE do not practice in our family .This manthra is only for those   whose family practices   this tharpana ) . According to the belief, only those devotees whose fathers are not alive anymore can perform this ritual
   They perform SAndhyavandana   and   other rituals of the morning   on BHishmasg htami    sit facing ease and say “BHishma Tharpanam Karishye , Change  the Yagnopavitha  in  the garland mode(For rishi tharpanam   while doing Brhama Yajnam    we do this,)  and offer Arghya   with the following Manthras three times  , pouring the water to the left side of the palm .
பீஷ்மாஷ்டமி அர்க்ய மந்திரம்.
வையாக்ர பாதி கோத்ராய ஸாங்க்ருதி ப்ரவராய கங்கா புத்ராய பீஷ்மாய ஆஜந்ம ப்ருஹ்மசாரிணே.
பீஷ்மாய நம: இதமர்க்யம். இதமர்க்யம், இதமர்க்யம்.
Vayyagrapadhi Gothraya  , sankruthi  Pravaraaya    cha  , Ganga puthraya  Bheeshmaaya  ,
Aajanma  Brahma  Charine  Bheeshmaya  nama
Idham   Argyam,Idham Arghyam  Idham arghyam

Oh   Bheeshma , son of Ganga   who belongs   to Vayyagrapadhi gothra and Sankruthi pravara,
Who was a Brahmachari for burth to death  , Oh BHeeshma   salutation to you
I am offering    you   water offering   ,  water offering  and  , water offering

அபுத்ராய ஜலம் தத்மி நமோ பீஷ்மாய வர்மணே பீஷ்ம: சாந்தநவோ வீர: ஸத்யவாதீ ஜிதேந்த்ரிய:
ஆபி ரத்பி ரவாப்நோது புத்ரபெளத்ரோசிதாம் க்ரியாம் பீஷ்மாய நம: இதமர்க்யம், இதமர்க்யம், இதமர்க்யம்.

Aputhraya  Jalam dhadmi , namo  Bheeshmaya  Varmane  , Bheesha  santhanavo veera
SAthyavadi  Jithendrya
AApi  rathbhir avapnothu   puthra pouthrochithaam   kriyaam  Bheeshmaaya  nama
Idham Argyam., Idham argyam , idham argyam

To the one who does not have son, I   am offering water , salutations to Bheeshma  of royal family, who is valorous hero and son of Santhanu, seeker  of truth and one who has   controlled  his organs,
I am pleased to   make mine the rituals  that has to be   performed  by his sons and grand sons and salute  BHeeshma
I am offering    you   water offering ,  water offering and  , water offering

வஸூநா மவதாராய சந்தநோ ராத்மஜாய அர்க்யம் ததாமி பீஷ்மாய ஆபால ப்ருஹ்மசாரிணே. பீஷ்மாய நம; இதமர்க்யம், இதமர்க்யம், இதமர்க்யம்

Vasoonaam avathaaraya   santhanor  athmajaaya  cha  Arghyam dadhami
Bheeshmaaya AAbala Brahma charine  Bheeshmaya  nama
Idham Argyam., Idham argyam , idham argyam

I give water  offering to the incarnation ofa Vasu  ,and the son ogf King Santhanu 
Salutation to Bheeshma who was   Brahma chari from birth

I am offering    you   water offering ,  water offering and  , water offering

Sunday, January 21, 2018

Rituals to be done on Chandra Grahanam(Lunar eclipse ) on 31-1-2018

 Rituals   to be done  on  Chandra  Grahanam(Lunar  eclipse ) on 31-1-2018

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This  eclipse    is a total eclipse  in India  and is visible   all over India(partial Lunar eclipse in north eastern states) .When two full moon(pournami) occurs  in a month (Extremely rare , this occurs after  150 years)  , they call it a blue moon(The phrase  once in a blue moon  “ is because of this) .This January  there are  two Pournamis .Please understand   that  the moon   would not look blue) .When a total eclipse  occurs  , the moon is seen with red colour  .This iis called  blood  moon  .In India   this year we would be seeing the blood moon   

The Lunar Eclipse would be visible from Asia, most of Europe, Australia, North-East Africa, North-West South America, North America, Atlantic, the Indian Ocean, the Pacific, Arctic and Antarctica.
The Total Lunar Eclipse would be visible from India, Sri Lanka, Malaysia, Indonesia and most countries of Asia continent.
None of the eclipse would be visible from United Kingdom and some western parts of Europe. .I  am giving below   the time  of the eclipse  in  few  centres

New Delhi
Sydney , Australia
 3.08 , 1-2-2-018
New York (East coast)
5.51 AM 
7.06  AM
Dallas, Texas (Central USA)
4.51 AM
7.24 AM
Los Angeles(west coast)
2.51  AM
6.55 AM
Toronto  , Ottawa, Canada
5.51  AM
7.34  AM

The Lunar eclipse Tharpana   has to be done   towards  the end of  Chandra Grahana.Before doing Tharpana   we have to take bath    and after  the end  of  the eclipse  we have to again take bath.(if Sradha  is on POurnamasi thithi  on 31st, it shold be done only on 1-2-2018)

The   sankalpa manthra   for this eclipse is :-

  Hevilambinama samvathsare ,utharayane  , Hemantha rithou, Makara  mase , Shukla pakshe, adhya Pournamasyam   punya thidhou , Soumya vasara yukthayam, Pushya nakshatra yukthayam, shubhayoga, shubhaKarana evam guna viseshena, visishtayam asyam Pournamasyam  punya thidhou, Somoparaga  punya kale , uparaga sradham , thilatharpana roopena adhya karishye

(pournami is  up to  6.57  PM  IST  afterwards  Prathama, Pushya  Nakshata  is up to  5.36  PM IST   afterwards Aslesha  Nakshtra  .Even people in India should change  the thithi and Nakshatra  depending on the time they   do Tharpana)

The following stars are affected  Punarpoosam,  Poosam, Ayilyam Vishakham, Kettai, Pororattathi, Anusham , Uthrattathi, REvathi

(Those  whose Nakshatra   the eclipse are affected , should write the following sloka in a palm leaf and tie it to their forehead. After the eclipse this palm leaf should be removed. Then they should give in charity one Ash gourd, coconut and coin to a Brahmin.

“Indro analo Yamo , riksho, varuno vayurevacham, Kubhera, eeso knandu Indu uparaga udhavyathaam mama”

For getting rid of the  problems caused  Individuals can also chant 
“Yo Sou  Vajra dharou Deva, nakshtraanaam   prabhurmatha, sahasra nayana Chandra  , graha peedaam Vyopahathu”

Sri Vaishnavas   chant the following stotra

Chandra antharyami   Sri  Anjaneya  preranayaa ,
Sri Anjana swami preethyartham  ,
CHandroparaga   peeda parihartham,

SAnaaga   Chandra bimba   dhanamaham karishye 

Wednesday, October 4, 2017

Rules of Sradha by Vaidheeka Krita Rathnam Soma Skanda Gurukkal

   In modern times   after the first annual sradha, people are not performing Sradha at all. Since the only weapon of Pithrus is curse, please  be careful. The major effect would be they will curse that  there should be b no one to perform Sradha   for us i.e there would not be male progeny to our sons. Sri Soma Skanda Gurukkal   has written a great book about Sradha . Throughout he has mentioned about Varanam of Pithrus and Viswe Devas only.  He has not mentioned about Swamil ILai  to represent Maha Vishnu  or Varanam of another Brahmin as Vishnu. I have already  given the rules of SRadha by  Sri Vathsa  Soma deva Sharma  in

Rules of Sradha
Vaidheeka Kriya rathnam
Mayilani  Brahma sree  U.Soma skandha  Gurukkal

(I have modified and classified the  information given by the above author so that  its presentation is better )

Types of Sradhas
1.parvana Sradham is done to please the Viswe devas and Pithrus for three   generation. From mothers and fathers side,
2. Yekodhishta is a sradha   aimed at the person who is just dead and has not become pithru and is haing Pretha roopa.IN SApindi karana both re there.
3.Both in the first annual sradha and subsequent sradhas  first we seek permission to do the Sradha  in the Parvana   way.
4.The eight Vasus , eleven Rudras  , rwelve adithyas and twelve Viswa devas   protect the Sradha.
5,In each Sradha we  choose   two of the  viswe devas and one Brahmin will  represent them and another  top represent our Pithrus
6.In the first annulal sradha   and subsequent  annual sradhas we choose Puroorardhava  and Samjnaka   Viswe devas.
7.In Mahalaya Sradha   we choose Thuru and Ruchi Samjnakas
8.In SApindikarana we choose  Kala-Kamuka  SAmjnakas
9.In SAnya saanga Sradha   we choose Sathu –Guru samjakas
10.In Naandhi sradhas  Sathyavasu and in Yagas  Krathu-Daksha samjnakas   are chosen
11.People who are not monretarily well off can do it in HIranya or Aama sradha  way. Now in practice people do it only as Hiranya
12. Another form is Sankalpa Sradha  where Aavahana  , homa  , arghya  , vikira, panda dhana and Tharpana   are not there
Mahalaya  Sradha(Pithru Paksha)
13.It is essential to do Sradha  in Mahalaya Paksha.Atleast do Hiranya SRadha
14.During Mahalaya Paksja   at least   daily do tharpanam
15.The most important days of Mahalaya Paksha or Maha Bharani, Madhyashtami and Vyadheepadham ,The thryodasi of Mahalaya  Paksha  is Gajachaya.If you do sradham on that day, you will get the effect  of doing Gaya Sradha
16.In Mahalaya Pakshna   Even Karunya Pithrus  (Father’s brothers, elder vrother, younger brother. Paternal aunt, maternal uncle, mother’s sisters, own sisters and their sons, wife  , father in law, mother in law, sister’s husband, daughter in law, brother in law, Guru  , Master under whom we have worked  and friends) also receive varanam, pindam    and tharpanam.
17.In mother is alive during Mahalaya  SRadha , sradha is not do the maternal side
18.In normal sradha we offer  six pindas(rice balls) but in mahalaya sradha 13  pindas are offered to Pithru Varga(fathers clan), Mathru varga(mothers clan),  Sapathneeka Mathamaha varga(The clan of in laws of other wives) and Karunya pithrus.
Nandi sradha
19.Nandi sradha needs to be done  during Garbha dhana , Seemantha, Jatha karma, Nama Karma, Anna prasana, Choula, Prapthyadhi pnances,  Samavarthana, Vivaha and graham pravesa   to new home.
20.In Nandui Sradha the mathru Varga is first offered and then the Pithru varga
21, In Nandi the varana is in the reverse order, prapithamaha, pithamaha   and Pitha
22. Nandi sradha is an auspicious function Instead of Gingelly Yava is used. Parishechana is not done anticlockwise .The word “Swadha”  is not used
23.For Viswedevas we have to select two Brahmins  and for each Pithru Two Brahmanas are selected
24.If a kartha performs one Nandi Sradha , he can do another only after  6 days
25.The person who does Nandhi  sradha   does not do Anna Sradha  for three months during  Amavasya, Sankramana , manvadhi and Yugadhi, Some people do not do tharpanam for 6 months
26. The person who does Nandhi should not   touch Gingely or Durbha.He can do it using Akshathai   and Arugam pul.
27.The person who does Nandhi can do Sapindeekaranam  and Prathyabdheekam in his home
28.When wife is in periods, husband is not supposed to do Nandhi
29.In Nadhi you face eat   and in Dhurbhas  facing east  , he has to keep two pindas .The pindas are by  fruits(Elandhai pazham/Jamoon) and curd

Duties of Kartha(one who performs)  and Boktha(one who  consumes)

30.Kartha  is the person who does the Sradha
31.Bhoktha is the one who is selected by us for worship in the Sradha
32.There are some common rules for Kartha and Boktha
33.Both of them should not eat any food after  taking meals in the Sradha
34.Both of them should lead a religiously disciplined life for Sradha Paksha (waxing or waning 15 day period in which SRadha falls)  or  at least   one week(or three  days ) before the Sradha

Who can become a Boktha
36.The two Bokthas should not be brothers
37.A widower   without son is not elegible to become a Boktha
38.If a person’s wife is in periods, he is not eligible to be a  Boktha
39.Once a person becomes Boktha  in a home , for next  three days, he is not elegible to become a Boktha
40.Those who do not know Veda, those who are  ill and those who want you to make the Boktha are not elegible.
41.It is not permissible to one person being BOktha in another house and that person becoming Boktha in his house by mutual agreement.
42.Those who have a wife who is pregnant for more than three months also are  not elegible to be a Boktha
43.He who has not o performed first year death ceremony  after their death and he who has   shaved himself that day are not eligible  as Bokth
44.Among the Bokthas , the younger one should be selected to represent Pithrus(manes) and the elder one   the Viswe devas.
Duties of Kartha 
45. He who performs Sradha(the kartha) should not  brush his teeth using a brush or stick on the day of SRadha.

46.The Kartha should change his scared thread  before starting the ceremony.
47.To the Bokthas we should give Vasthra(cloth)  of the quality we ourself wear.
48.The Kartha should not take meals  in other’s homes ( Guru, Uncle, sister brother are not others)  for one month(Or one Paksha or one week or three  days )   before the Sradha.
49.He should not take  oil bath in the  week previous to the Sradha
50.If you cannot afford to give cloths to the Bokthas, give them at least new sacred threads.
51.The Dakshina(fees) is according to the Kartha’s monetary ability

When to perform Sradha?
52.Sradha should be performed in the Thithi, month and Paksha  in which the death has occurred.
53.If in the Paksha, the thithi occurs twice , perform the SRadha on the day when the thithi is at 1.30 PM(aparahna)  on that day.
54.If both thithis are suitable perform   it in the later thithi
55.In the Panchanga in the right  most section the Sradha thithi would be mentioned
56.If we are  not able to observe SRadha on the  correct thithi, that day   we should perform Upavasa(starvation) and perform  the Sradha on   the next day.
57.If we forget the Thithi  , SRadha can be performed on the Ashtami thithi of Krishna Pakasha, Ekadasi or Amavasya(Maha Periyava is of the i opinion that  the Sradha should be performed  only in India)
58,If we get death or birth  taint during SRadha, SRadha should be performed   at the end of taint period.
59.Brothers who have divided the wealth of their parents should do Sradha  Seperately
60.But if mother is alive , it can be done together
61.If a sradha is done on behalf of a lady , there is no homa,Only Pinda is offered
62.SRadha for Sanyasis are to be done during dwadasi
63. Sradha for  those who meet bad death is to be done during Chathurdasi

Rules of performance of Sradha
64.In Sradha special importance is given to Gingelly(Til)  and Daughter’s son(dauhithra) .
65,Black Til should be used in plenty. Dharbha grass  and Til is supposed to have come from Lord Varaha
66 For cleaning of the area  for .Pada Prakshalanam ,( means washing of feet of Boktha.) with cow dung for Viswedevas square pattern should be drawn and for  Pithrus round shape should be made on the floor
67.You should not wash the feet of Boktha  along with Pavithra. It should be removed and kept on the right ear.
68. The water  used for washing feet of the  two bokthas   should not join together .
69.Wash the heels of the feet of the Bokthas and not the inside feet.
70.The ghee that  remains after  using for Homa should not be used for anything
71.The sound of bell should not be heard during Sradha time . The ladies should not put Thilaka. As these two will drive away Pithrus.
72.  After  12 noon  the Kartha should perform madhyahneekam  and after giving Ellu Urundai  for clearing the mind of the Bokthas  , THamboola for purifying their face and oil for cleaning their body  and request to take bath and bathe himself and start  the Sradha.
73,All upacharas are first to  be done only to Viswe devas
74,After sradhha the first to get up wold be  Pithrus
75,In Sradha   for  mother  Matha, pithamahi  , prapithamahi are invoked.Arghyam and GRahanam is for them only but HOma   is for their male Pithrus
76.If there is a need to do Sradha to the sister, younger brother, son, uncle  and Guru, Only they should be invoked  and sradha is done in a Sankalpa way
77.The sradha of mother   and father   has to be done in Parvana way and never as Sankalpa Sradha
78.In Sradha of the brothers of father, they , grand father and great grand father   are invoked..
79.In the sradha of elder brother, Elder brother, father  and grand father   are invoked
80.In case of Sradha of maternal grand father  along with maternal grand father , his father and grandgrand father    are invoked
81.IN dangerous situations , or when wife is in periods or away, SRadha with Homa  need not be done but it can be done as Aama Sradha or Hiranya Sradha
82.Every month during Amavasya sradha for fathers and mothers clan can be done but in practice only tharpanam is done

Rules for cooking  in Sradha
83.Some one who is not a relative or a  servant should not cook for Sradha
84.A lady in periods or who has taken bath on the third day should not cook
85.The  person who cooks should not wear   wet cloths
86.Do not cook crying or laughing or pulling your hair
87.Cooking should be done in new or well cleaned vessel  which is not made of steel. Silver vessels are the best.(Please remember that Stainless steel is steel)
88.The Rice should be cooked at the end.When it is served steam should come out of it.
89. Both ends should not be cut of the Banana leave used to serve food during Sradha. The top end should be on the left.
90. Vegetables and other material   for cooking in Sradha
a.Suitable   for cooking
Black gram, Black Til , wheat,  green cow pea, Bitter gourd, Jack fruit, Mango, Pomegranate, Curry leaf, Lime, Banana fruit, Mango fruit Grapes, Plantains, Snake Gourd , Kandakathiri, (Brinjal with thorns) ,  Sundakkai, pepper, ghee , brown coloured sugar, , jiggery, sea salt,Gooseberry, ILanthai Pazham(Jamun) , honey, cow’s milk , curd made from cow’s milk , Karanai kizhangu(?) Colocasia tubers,  Jeera, cardamom, Lablab beans, THoothuvalai(?) , Banana pseudostem,  coconut, mustard, sweet potato , Groundnut, wood apple, hillies, rice, gingely oil , turmeric  , tender coconut, Chiru KIzhangu(?) , ginger, Amaranthus leaves, Amarathus stem.,  Betel leaf , cardamom , dried ginger, Clove, Jathikkai(?),Jathipathei(?)
b.Not suitable for cooking
Dried cow pea seeds, horsegram , asafoetida, Drum stick, Tur dhal,Bottle gourd, Banana flower,  Radish, onion ,  garlic, Buffalo mlk,  goat milk, Curd made of Buffalo milk, ghee made of Buffalo milk
c.Very important and greatly preferred
Honey, jack, black gram, Kandankkathiri, Chundaikkai, Jasmine leaf, Pirandai , Mugattayilai , Karayilai, Thulasi

Some conventions in performing Sradha
91.The  pithrus would be greatly pleased   because we add Vasu, Rudra , Adithya devas
92.The father is considered as Vasu, grand father   as Rudra, and great grand father as Adithya and jopining them all together we normally say Vasu rudra Adithya Swaroopa Asmad pitha, Pithamaha  , Prapithamaha
93.When we  choose a Brahmin as DEva , then poonal is worn in the normal fashion
94. When we choose a Brahmin as  representing Pithrus, the poonal should be Prachereena Vidhi(Ie it should be worn on right shoulder
95.When we offer Dharbha to devas it should be  given straight
96.When Dharbha s offered  to Pithrus , it should be folded in to two and offered to them (Tips connected)
97.When we   do Pada Prakshalanam (Washing of feet) of Brahmins , since devas and Pithrus comew from their LOkas  , The place where the Brahmanas sit is worshpped by  Dharbha  , Sandal paste, Akshatha(rice)  and Gingley
98.When we   are doing  Aavahanam(Making them come)  , we should put Akshatha( rice  starting from their right leg  and going clockwise
99.When we are doing Avahanam of Pithrus , the til should be put starting from their head till their feet,
100.Arkhya grahanam. For Viswe devas and Maha Vishnu water in a pot should be kept in the southern side  of the fire.
101.For Pithrus water should be kept in another   vessel
102.The vessel of Arkhya water should not be kept open and they should never be moved from their place
103.Suppose lot of  Arkhya water  spills out , the entire water   should be emptied  , then we have to keep it again by chanting manthras. If a small quantity spills out, it can be ignored
104.Sradha Brahmanas(Bokthas) should not touch each other
105.Suppose (a small portion of food taken-Yechil) of one Brahmin falls on another  Brahmin’s leaf , both leaves should be removed, the place cleaned by cowdung and frsh leaf should be put and the food served again,
106.Till the Bokthas complete their food the fire should keep on burning
107.If By chance the fire is extinguished, that day you should not take food and SRadha   carried out again
108.To remove the Rakshasas who may be present , the Brahmins should be requested to do Abhisravanam and chant Vedas.After the Sradha separate Dakshina(fee) should be given for that.
109.During Ekodishtam , SApindikaranm , Masigam , Anumasikam , Nandi SRadham  and Gayasradha Abhisravana should not be done
110.The Bokthas should not talk while eating food, They should point out what they want by their finger. Since they should not eat afterwards during the day, they should be made to eat slowly and in plenty.
111.The Leaves in which Bokthas have taken food, should be buried in the soil
112. In cities where this is not possible , people offer the leaves to the cow., SinceYechil should not be given to cow this is wrong.Please do according to tradition
113.Before the final SWasthi Vachana at the end of taking of food  , the  leaves should be removed
114.After  Pinda pradhanam(offering of rice balls)  only the area should be cleaned
115.It is a practice to keep Vikhranna (sme rice) before the leaves  of the Brahmins. This gives happiness to those in Naraka(hell)
116.Performance of Sradha gives happiness not only pithrus  but  the homa gives happiness to devas, The eating of food by Brahmins to those  who are in heaven , Pinda dhana to those in Yama LOka and Anna Dhana to human beings and Uchishta(left over) to ghosts and devils
117.WE say , “Let those born  in clan who were burnt in fire and those that were not be satisfied by this Vayasa Pinda kept on earth and reach  salvation .Let those who were burnt in fire according to rituals  and those who were not burnt as per rituals  but who were born in my clan  become happy by this Pinda.”
118.Kaka pindam is for Pithrus not known to us and should be protected  till the crow takes it.
119.After the pinda pradhana, put little of the cooked rice in the mouth saying manthras. Since it is part of Sradha, there is no sin in that but   Some people only smell it but not eat it.
120.Even if is  Ekadasi  , the food offered to the Pithrus can be eaten. There is sin in it..Jnathis ,(People belonging to our clan) can smell that food and it will give them same effect as eating it.
121.Even after marriage girls can take  the food offered to Pithrus  in case of their father, mother and elder brother.But Widows should not eat it.
122.Fruits, vegetables , milk, curd  and honey  do not have Pithru Sesha. I e the defect food which remains after  being offered to Pithrus
123.Clan people should not eat in Ekodishta
124.The relations who have only three day taint cannot eat the Pithru  sesha
125.Paraheni tharpana should be performed  next day morning only ,If it is not possible , it can be done after  the Sradha
126.If Father is alive and sradha is done to mother  , there is no tharpanam
127.Paraheni tharpanam should be done using Dharbha and gingely used during Sradha, next day early morning before bath.But if it becomes morning, then it  can  be done after bath and Sandshyavandana
128. During Amavasya only Tharpanam is done
129.Even those whose father is alive should do Pithru Tharpanam during Brahma Yajnam.
130.The gingelly should not be picked by thumb and third finger
131,If you do tharpanam on Sunday  , Tuesday and Friday, rice should be mixed with Gingely.

Sunday, July 2, 2017

Palakkad Brahmins to perform Upakarma in September

Final decision   has been taken by  Palakkad   Brahmana samooham                                                                                                 Sadasiva Samarambhaam Sankaracharya Madyamaam Asmat Acharya Paryantam Vande Guru Paramparaam...🙏🏻

We thank all who took part in today's deliberations on this year's Upaakarma. Discussions were based on    directions from our Kanchi and Sringeri Acharyas that the appropriate date for Avani-Avittom this year would be 6th September.  Palakkad Graamajana Samoohams, our esteemed Vaideekas and Sabha representatives attended. It is of great significance for Palakkad Brahmanas that even at such short notice, most could attend.

After due discussions, it has been concluded that Jagadguru  upadesam shall be followed for Community and Lokakshemam. As such Yajur Upakarma will be on 6th September 2017. Gayatri Japam will be on 8th August.

We thank all Samoohams and Vaideekas for upholding our Guruparampara and Sastram. As Bhagawan said in the Gita:

Tasmat shaastram pramanam te
Jnatva sastra-vidhanoktam
Karma kartum iharhasi..

Perform your Karmas as mandated by the Sastras.

Loka: Samastha: Sukhina: Bhavantu...

Pranaamam 🙏🏻

Monday, June 19, 2017

End of confusion regarding dates of UPakarma 2017

End of confusion regarding  dates  of UPakarma 2017 

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Sri Sarma SAstrigal has  published   a Tamil  letter   from Kanchi  Mutt   regarding the dates of Upakarma(attached)  :-
It says 
IN the last Durmukhi year  The  Panchanga Sadas   which is being organised    for past several years  was conducted in Vijayavada.  Several scholars including the Scholars  of the Srimata   who participated in that Sadas decided that due to Lunar eclipse   on Pournami of AAdi month(7/8/2017)  ,
Doing UPakarma on that day should be avoided  and it should be carried out  on the Pournami day  of AAvani month  and  as per that  it was decided that
1.Avani month  21 st  wedneday ( 6-9-2017)   is the  Yajur upakarma day
2,AAdi month  12th  Friday  (28-7-2017)   is the Rik upakarma day 
2.AAvani month  9th  Friday (25-8-2017)    is the SAma upakarma day
                              Sri Kanch i matam

I am also attaching  the  pages  of   the Panchangam published   by the Sringeri mutt  . It also says   the same thing.  I hope this would   clarify all    the doubts   we had   about  the correct Upakarma days   of 2017.

Friday, June 16, 2017



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 This is the  proper  method of a Brahmin Brahmachari  or householder   to introduce   himself  to elders , Our Gurus   and people  like saints  who are  fit to be revered.
The introduction  has  five distinct  parts. (It is very similar to our  introducing   ourselves   in an Interview  ,”I  , DR.Vaidhyanathan,  who studied  in madras  university under  eminent  professors like  DR.Krishnaswami, Dr. Suryanarayanan  and Dr. Ganapathy,  who is qualified   to practice  Allopathy , in which I specialise  in Orthopedix, introduce myself”) 

a.Our  Gothra

   Gothra   does mean , the place   where  Cows   are protected , Initially   there  were  the following  Gothras:-
Viswamithra , Jamadagns , BHaradwaja  , Gowthama  , Athri  , Vasishta  , Kasyapa   and Agasthya.

Each of   these Gothras   were further  split in to various branches   and  an exhaustive list contains  the name of  gothras   given in a book with me lists   about   436  Gothras . out of these  , in a survey done by me  I found  that   the seven Gothras  Bharadwaja  Gothra (19.5%)  , Haritha Gothra ( 6.7%)  , Kashyapa Gothra  (5.64%)  Kaundinya  Gothra ( 10,8%)  , Kaushika Gothra( 13,60%)  , Srivathsa  Gothra  (11.12%)   and Vadhoola Gothra   (4.56%) , account  for  72%   of the Tamil  Brahmins..

Please note same Gothra  people may follow different Vedas and Suthras   and have  different Pravaras.

b.Our  Pravara

 Each gothra  normally   tells   about  the  great sages   who   started  it  and they are  called  Pravara 
Rishis  . The  Gothras   can have  one Pravara Rishi, Two pravara Rishis  , Three  Pravara   Rishis  , Five Pravara  Rishis  and  Seven Pravara  Rishis.
   A  classification of    the total list of 441  Gothras   showed 19  Gothras with  one pravara  rishi, 15 Gothras  of two pravara   rishis, 348   Gothras  of three  Pravara  Rishis   and 54  Gothras  of  five  Pravara  Rishis.

Please note that  there   are  many Gothras with  groups following   different  Pravara Rishis.

C, Our Veda
        This is possibly   the Veda  which was studied   by  our patrilineal   ancestors .  Though   4 vedas are  listed  , , in South India  people   who follow   Atharva  Veda are   not to be found. But there are   two branches  of Yajur veda  called  Shukla  Yajurveda   and  Krishna  Yajurveda.

      It is interesting to find among  North Indian Brahmins

Dwivedis – Those   who have learnt  two Vedas
Trivedis- Those    who have   learnt   three Vedas
And CHathuredis  - Those  who have   learnt all the four Vedas

      In South India also    several  scholars have mastered  more than one Veda  but  they   always  term themselves  as belonging to one Veda  only.

D.Our   Suthra

       Suthra  means “thread”   but  by Suthra  what we mean is   the Guidelines   for doing our rituals.
Each Veda has one or two Suthras . For example(I have compiled these   from various sources.  If you pint out  Omissions and Commissions, I woud be grateful    and correct them)

.Aswalayana , Kathyanana ( not very common- Sankhyayana , Saunaka  and Sambhavya ) for Rig veda,
Apasthambha,Bhodayana ( not that common- Bharadwaja , sathyashada , Vaikanasa , Agnivysya )are Sutras for  Yajur Veda.
Latyayayana , Drahyayana  ,  Ranayani,  (not common- Nidhana  Mashaka  , Gobhila   and Jaimineeya  )   for Sama  Vedas

Al our rituals have to be peformed by Following the Sutra  of our clan,. If due to non availability  of scholar priest  trained in our Suthra , if we perform using rules  of other Suthra  , then we  are supposed to repeat using our Suthra  later.

E.Our name
     We add the name   which was given to us   with the surname   Sharma (Which essentially means    we are Brahmins)  . If your name itself is Sharma  , You can say “sharmanamaham”

Some   Abhivadaye rules:-
1.You should not tell   Abhivadaye   before   saluting God
2.We are  not supposed   to tellAbhivadaye   when   saluting  Yathis( SAnyasis)
3.WE are   not suppose   to tell  Abhivadaye   while   saluting Woman ( except  on Brahmopadesam day   when we take Bhiksha   from women)
4.When we   are saluting  more than one elder, we should not tell  Abhivadaye
5, In some families Abhivadaye is told and Namaskarams is done later, In some other families , first Namaskarams is done and then Abhivadaye is chanted. We have to follow our family traditions.
6,If we have to touch the feet of the elders after telling Abhivadaye, we have to keep our hands as a cross and touch their right feet with our right hand and their left feet with left hand. If we are not able to touch, we have to touch the ground before them.

Some Examples  
1.Abhivadaye  BHargava  , chyavana, AApnaavana, Ourva, Jamadagnya Pancha rishaya pravaranvitha , Sri Vathsa  Gothra, Aapa Sthamba   Suthra, Yaju Shakha  Adhyayi Sri Ganapthi Satmaanamaham   Asmibho.
2.Abhivaadahye AAngeerasa, Baarhaspathya, Bhaaradwaaja  trayaarsheya  pravaranvitha, BHaradwaja  Gothra, Aapasthambha suthra, Yajushaka   Adhyayai  Sri Subrahmanya Sharmaanaham    ASmibho.

3.Abhivadaye  Vasishta , Maithravaruna  , Kaundinya   thraya risheya , AApasthambha   Suthra , Yaju Shakha Adhyayi , Sri Ramachandra Sharmaanaam Asmibho.